We are One

When you get married, the couple is called as one. Whatever your issues keep it to yourselves, within the family or better talk about it as husbands and wife. Relatives and in laws can't help neither. I can't remember if it was an advice or I read a book or heard (whatsoever) that a couple's problem will not be solve by anyone but only the party involve. Advices, reactions, suggestions sometimes make it more complicated. Better do a counseling together. Together! It should always be together!
A good friend of mine keep on posting about their couple's issue in her social media account. She was known to be the nicest and most patient gal in high school. I am opt to send her a private message worrying if how she will handle my reactions about her post. She's a dear friend indeed and my concern is pure. She's one of the people who treated me and teaching me to be a lady like. I remember the days that she was like my "mommy" at school. Glad that after our conversation at least I think, I made her felt a little better. I really hope so.

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Swinging Together

Marriage life is a  not always a great journey. It's not always a lullaby like swing nor always a windy play. There were times that patience, love, trust and faith is being test. All you have to do is to hold on to each other. Each other is your strength. It's like riding in a literal swing with cedar swingsets while holding each other . To balance and keep it moving together. No one will go jump out without the other or it can't be as pleasurable as it is if there's no cooperation of each other.

In our case, I believe we are being tested by time and life challenges. We are facing troubles at times and as we go together the more we value and love each other. We appreciate our differences not contradict. We work on our issues and adjust so that we will complement. On how we cope up and see things in  different way help us to see things outside the box. We we're not perfect. We are not trying to be perfect, we just want to enjoy life and build better life for  our children. We have petty and big understandings. The good thing about our marriage is that we never clash. Hubby is always been patient enough not to fight  nor talk to me if I am mad. If we have issues we let ourselves calm down prior talking with each other. It may took days but not a week, I learned from hubby to clear my mind, calm my emotions and think of the resolution, compromise and ways to prevent a next big fight.  He never taught  me by words nor advises but instead I learned from his actions , then I confirmed to him if I am getting the message right. I may have a strong personality, I still need a husband that will guide me, feed my spiritual being and the one that I know whose always on my back no matter what. He may not be the guy that is at all times  strong enough to depend on but surely will never leave me.

Cheers to a decade of being together and counting more.

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